The Dilemma Of Working Mothers
We blame work for our little contact with children. But, in reality, we resist exchanging freedom for surrender, doing for not doing, recognition for invisibility. Motherhood and work are only compatible if there is full emotional availability.
To shelter a baby, you have to be willing to lose all autonomy, freedom and time for yourself. It’s a choice. Nobody can determine what each one should do.
But it is important that we know why we choose –without being aware– for one or the other. When we don’t know, we tend to “blame” work.
Getting away from our children for work reasons: a bad thing for many …
We believe that it is because of work that we do not remain attached to our children. We are convinced that the need to earn money is responsible for having to leave them for many hours each day.
But the problem is not work. The problem is the return home. When we return home, the child feels that, now, the time has come to be with mother. From then on, it deserves to be showered with caresses, time, hugs and smiles.
If we are able to relegate everything else once we are home, if we understand that there is nothing more urgent than nurturing our baby with cuddles and milk, then work will not be an obstacle to the bond.
Maternity and new responsibilities
That motherhood once again has a priority social value is the responsibility of all of us. Men and women. Whether we have children or not.
If we think about the future as a society, if we think politically, philosophically and economically, the accounts turn out well only if children once again have a valued and cared for space.
For that, they need their mothers emotionally available. It is precisely in this sense that they also receive sufficient economic and emotional support and sustenance to be able to be there.
